Old Habits Die Hard

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You know, teacher Dave thought, oh, if I just say these three

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sentences live.

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That would be me. Welcome to Building a Better Dave.

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And have you ever done something and you turn around

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and you go, oh, man, did you? Yeah.

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And by that I mean you fell into old habits that

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you're like, oh, you, you still haven't learned that

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lesson yet. And what's really weird is

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there are times when I coach my

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clients that when it comes to trolls,

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don't feed the trolls. And

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I kind of fed this guy like a three course meal.

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And it's on Reddit, which is kind of like YouTube,

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and that, you know, that some of the worst parts of the Internet love

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to hang out on Reddit and just

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start stuff. And so

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this guy had this post that was like, hey, my show

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has gotten big enough that I can invite big guests

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on my show, but I have a day job and

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the PR person wants to know if I'm available during

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the day. And so I replied and

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said, this is why I do solo shows. There's no

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scheduling, there's no this. Which to his point,

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wasn't very helpful. Like, my whole thing was like,

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basically pointing out, you know, you might want to consider, because I know people that

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are like, no, no, I only do interview shows if

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I'm not talking to somebody else. I don't want to be on a mic. And

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I'm like, okay. And so he then

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pointed out, hey, for a guy that always says he

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helps podcasters, that wasn't very helpful. Yada, yada,

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yada. You may not realize that other people have other

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situations. And I said, you know what, you're right. I'm sorry.

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So here's your options. You're either

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going to record during the day at your job,

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which is what I did back in the day, or

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you could just say, the time during the day is not available.

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Here's my schedule. And I pointed out, you have

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the power. And this is where people are like, no, but it's this big star.

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And I'm like, if they really want to be on your show, they'll

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find the time. I've had two people that are like, yeah, I don't do,

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you know, interviews at night. And I'm like, well, that's when I'm available. And they're

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like, oh, okay. That's too bad. And then four days later, they're like,

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hey, I found some time in my schedule. And so if they really

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want to get in front of your audience, they will do that. And

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so I pointed this out to that guy that try that. And he

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came back and said, everything you say looks like

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you copied and pasted it from chatgpt to where my

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brain was like, how dare you? Because I actually

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typed out this whole thing. And I pointed out that in the event

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you can't get Big guess, some of my best episodes were

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from people that nobody'd ever heard of. And then one

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guy, his name's Glenn, has been back on my show five times because

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he always brings amazing content. So in the event, little

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buckaroo. Now, I didn't say that. That you,

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you know, can't find a way to get these big guests,

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you know, you can get by. To which he replied.

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And then I said he had mentioned something like, it's not even the point

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of the podcast, yada, yada, yada. So I asked him

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two questions, to which he again replied,

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basically, dude, blah,

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blah, blah, wasn't receptive to my answer. And this is where I

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look back and go, the curse

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of being an educator is you think you

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can always. If I just say this one thing, the light bulb

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will come on. And this is where both my ex wives would

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say, you love to argue. And I'm like, no, no, I'm not arguing.

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I see a resolution on the other side of this

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response. If you would just hear and

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process what I'm saying, you would go, oh, oh,

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I see it now. And that is not what happened.

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And so finally I thought, you know, this guy doesn't

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feel heard. He doesn't feel heard. And I replied.

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I said, hey, you know, it's a bummer that you've

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worked this hard to grow your show and you're now having the opportunity

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to have these big guests, and it looks like you may not be

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able to meet their schedules. And that really sucks because

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that's what that guy said, right? And I said, that's

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disheartening, you know, And

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I forget what else I said, but it was like, you know, best of luck

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to you, et

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cetera, et cetera. So it wasn't even really suggesting anything. And he

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then replied and said, please stop, I'm not even

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reading these. And that offended

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me because I was like, look, I didn't even suggest anything. I

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was just saying, good luck to you. And

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it took everything I had to not reply,

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gladly. Just so he Wouldn't get the last

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word. I even offered to get

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on Zoom with him. I'm like, hey, we're missing some tone of voice here, buddy.

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Let's get on Zoom. Let's talk about it. And that's when

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you find out what you're dealing with. He

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never even acknowledged that. He never acknowledged that. He didn't

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answer my questions. And looking back, I'm like, dude, you're

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missing this. This is a person that. And it's kind of weird

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because I want to call. I want to say he's

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uncoachable. And that's not true.

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But for whatever reason, I have rubbed this man the wrong

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way, and he will never take any advice from me. And then I looked up,

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and there were like, two or three other people that had said, oh,

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try this. And he was like, nope, can't go. Dope, dope. So, nope. And then

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somebody else suggested something and might have just, you know, they should have

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just yelled pull. Because he was like, everybody. And what was really interesting,

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this is when I was like, ah, dude, look. What you fell into is I

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clicked on his name, which takes you over to kind of their profile.

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And if you're smart, you filled out your profile and put your website

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there. And a couple other things I get probably, I don't know, 10 to

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20 people a month that. That click over

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from my profile to my website.

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Probably closer to 10 than 20. Not much. But if you

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the same thing on Facebook, you should always have a link to your website in

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your profile. So if you're being helpful on these social sites, that

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somebody goes, who is this Dave Jackson guy? He answers like seven

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questions a day over here. And this person

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had a name like, whatever, shmoopy, double O,

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10 something, whatever. And there was completely

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anonymous, no links to anything. And then you can go over and see

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all of his replies, and all of his replies were basically just pull,

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you know, pull. He's just shooting down everything. And I was like,

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oh, look what you got. And so,

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you know, that's one of those things where it's like, oh. And you kind of

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go. And you look at yourself. Did you see what you did there?

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Did you see, like, you and your whole education

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can change the world kind of thing? You know,

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I was just like, yeah,

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I should have noticed after really the second

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reply, if not the first, that this guy, when he

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came at me basically saying, you know, instead of saying,

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thanks for, you know, that doesn't really fit me. And then to say, you're

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not very helpful, you know, and then you're not reading. And

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just. I was like, ah, look what you did. But when he started

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putting down my reputation, that's when I was like, hey, hold on. And I was

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very tempted to take screenshots of everybody saying, this has been so

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helpful. And I was like, no, no, just. Just let it go.

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Let it go. And if he needs help, he'll eventually reach

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out, which he won't. But I was just kind of

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frustrated. As I look back at it, I'm like, oh,

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why didn't you spot this? You even coach others to

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leave it alone. And yet

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Teacher Dave thought, oh, if I just say this, these three

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sentences will change their mind. And they'll

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be like, oh, I see it now. Thank. No, no,

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they're not. And I was just kind of like,

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okay, so that's how you get better,

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is by

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recognizing those things that get you sucked in.

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And then maybe next time, you know,

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don't feed the trolls. So my life

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has been fun. I got home from speaking in Charlotte,

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and right now I am basically doing a sermon every other week in

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my church, which to me, is not a big deal.

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I mean, I like public speaking. It's like doing an extra

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podcast. It's just my topic is always the Bible

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and the other person that fills

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in when I'm not there. So the every other week, other. Other person

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was in the hospital. She's 72. She has

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one lung and had pneumonia, which is really bad when

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you only have one lung. And. And just for fun, she threw in heart

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palpitations. They got both those under control, and then her

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blood pressure went through the roof. And after pretty

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much a little over a week, she's just now come home.

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But where I went from every other week, I'm now every week.

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And that's something that my aura ring.

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You know, the little fitness thing. I said, hey, you seem

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kind of stressed, and you're not resting as much as you used to.

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And I was like, yeah. And your point is?

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So the good news is I've got probably another two weeks

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of this, and that should calm down so I can. Because I literally

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sat down. I was like, okay, I can finally work on all those things that

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I want to get done. Not client stuff, but my stuff.

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And then it was like, yeah, man makes plans and God

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laughs, and so we shall see. But

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hope all is well with you. Don't.

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At least here in the States, if you have a fall season,

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get out there and explore it. That's what I did tonight, and I'm

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gonna do the best I Can I have a really beautiful park about 10 minutes

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from my house? And so every night, there's a.

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Just a really big circle that's about 2 miles. Takes about 30

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minutes to walk through it, depending on how fast you're walking. And

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my goal is to hit that on a regular basis because I

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got to lose some weight. I watched a documentary

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with Ozzy Osbourne, and it's called Coming Home. It's on

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Google. I'll put a link in the show notes. And it is sweet

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and sad because it covers the last days of

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Ozzy's life. And he talks about turning 70

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and how everything just fell apart. Then I just turned 60 and

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kind of was like, hey, things are falling. And it's just one of those where

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I know it's only going to get worse. And yet

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I'm living pretty much exactly the same way. I'm eating

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many less carbs, and I'm trying to be more

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active, but I'm not really exercising, which is dumb,

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because when I do, shockingly, I lose weight.

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And it's just one of those things where we.

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Anything that's important, we find time for. And for whatever reason,

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I argue with myself because I know it's important, and yet my

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actions don't show that. So I need to

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fix that. I'm definitely more active than I was, but

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I really need to start, you know, breaking a sweat.

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It's great that I walked around the block three times today, but every

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time I went to my Apple watch and said, okay, I'm done. It's like, hey,

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your workout was on a scale from one to five, where one is easy

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and whatever, hard is whatever, five, 10,

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something. It's like a two. And I'm like, yeah, that's not really a

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workout. So I got to work on that as

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well as I work on not getting trolled

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by the trolls. So hope all

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is well on your side of the glass. And until

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the next episode, it's going to get better.